Recovery Thought of the Day - June 2nd

Good Morning CR Family,

Please see the Recovery Thought of the Day below Perry C:

People

Part of my job at the church is to speak and help people in crisis.  This week I got a phone call from a women entrenched in a long term abusive relationship.  What do you tell someone when they say they love their husband and in the same breath reveal he manipulates and physically abuses her routinely?  Instinctually she knew this must be wrong, but it is all she has ever known.  The woman who called me in tears and fear had no idea what a healthy relationship looks like or how a truly safe person behaves.

Dr. Henry Cloud is the authority figure on this subject and whose work I refer to from his lectures and book, “Safe People”.

An unsafe person will harm you, intentionally or unintentionally. An unsafe person will trip you up and not have your best interest at heart.  They will try to turn you into someone you are not.  An unsafe person will try to own or possess you.  They will restrict your connection with other people and often they don’t want you to have other friends. 

A safe person helps you become the very best version of yourself that is possible.  A safe person helps you grow and get connected with other safe people.  They help us get closer to God.  A safe person wants us to be healthy and learn how to love and fulfill our purpose in life. A safe person wants us to expand, to become, to use every ounce of potential to impact the world for good.

Take a moment and evaluate the relationships in your life.  How are you being treated? Are your friends and family safe or unsafe? Then if you’re brave and I know you are, evaluate how you relate to others, are you a safe or an unsafe person?

There is no shame or condemnation in realizing you or those around you are unsafe people. I was an unsafe person for years because I didn’t know differently.  It simply is your reality today.  But stay in recovery, work the program and you will change and learn how to become a safe person.

I believe in you,
Perry

Announcements:

1. If you are in need of prayer, please send your prayer requests to CelebrateRecoveryatCrossroads@gmail.com and we will forward those on to our celebrate recovery prayer team. The Crossroads Church Prayer team would also love to pray for you, so when you send your E-mail, please note if you are okay with us forwarding your prayer request to the church.
2. Fridays at 6:30pm, We are hosting "CR Friday Night Live."   To subscribe to our youtube channel  please click on the following link and select the subscribe button.  CR Youtube Channel Link .  There will be a song or two of worship and then a short recovery based dialog between a couple of CR members.  This will be streamed on youtube. 
3. Fridays we will be hosting on-line open share group meetings at 7:30pm.  There will be one mixed issues group for men and one mixed issues group for women. Men's Open Share Group Sign-Up Link / Women's Open Share Group Sign-Up Link.  These meetings will take place using the Zoom App.  In order to participate you will need a tablet, smart-phone or computer with camera.  In order to ensure confidentiality of these meetings everyone who participates will need to find a private room to set up, have their camera on, so others can see that there is no one else in the room and they will also need to wear a pair of headphones so that they are the only ones that can hear.  This is a free app and you can download it on google play, apple app store or through your web-browser on your computer. For help on how to join a Zoom meeting please click on the the following link, which will take you to their support web-site Zoom Set-Up Help

Blessings,
James U.