Recovery Thought of the Day - June 7th

Good Morning CR Family,

Please see below for today's Recovery Thought of the Day:

Grief and Unfinished Hurt

Over the past week I have been reading an amazing book that was gifted to me called: "From Wild Man to Wise Man," by Richard Rohr.  Today I would like to share a small passage that really resonated with my in my own recovery journey.

"You see, the "grieving mode" is quite different than the fixing mode, the controlling mode or even the understanding mode of life.  The male had to be shown how to live and feel grief, or he would spend all his life in these other three, which is what has largely happened.  Grief, as I define it, is simply unfinished hurt."

Wow... It was like he was talking straight to me.  I had never really thought of grief from that perspective before, but I have found it to be true.  Before recovery, every time that I was hurt, rather than facing it, I would ignore it and stuff it down.  When my Mom unexpectedly passed away at the age of 50, rather than working through that grief, I did my best to ignore it. After being subjected to infidelity and a failed first marriage, same thing...  The result of my unprocessed grief showed up in my life in many ways: trust issues, anger issues, acting out in my addition when those feelings of grief surfaced, planning out everything to the n-th degree (trying to control my life) as so on.

The fact of the matter is, working through grief is hard, it hurts.  Working through the 12 steps can hurt and is not always fun. The result of working through pain, as hard as it may be, is healing and restoration.  On the other end, the result of not dealing with our internal hurts is on-going hurt the rest of our lives and more than likely hurting others while we are at it.

What is an unfinished hurt that you are holding on to?

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Blessings,
James U.