Please see below for the Recovery Thought of the Day. Please check the announcements at the end of this E-mail to see the sign up links for this Friday's Open Share Group Meetings. Also, we will not be hosting a CR Friday Night Live on youtube this Friday. Crossroads is streaming their Good Friday Service at that time (6:30pm). If you are part of Crossroads or do not have a church family, I would encourage you to tune into that service and then participate in the on-line open share groups right after that at 7:30pm.
Boundaries
One thing that is extremely important in recovery is establishing boundaries for ourselves. For me having boundaries means several different things, first I have boundaries to help keep me away from things that trigger temptation, I have boundaries with friends and family and I also have boundaries with brother's and sisters in recovery. The purpose of all of these boundaries are to keep me safe and the help me maintain my recovery and serenity.
The boundaries that I think are more important than ever right now are the boundaries that we set with our family members. Many of us are finding ourselves confined to our homes with the ones we love most. This can be a really hard thing, especially if boundaries are lacking. The most important boundary that we can have with our family is that we remain "present and involved" in their lives, but that we do not "live" their lives. When we live their lives or try to control their lives, our feelings and emotions become dependent on theirs. When they are sad, you are sad. You are not happy, unless they are happy and so on. Establishing these boundaries can look different for everyone. It could be giving your children freedom to make some choices where they can experience failure, rather than controlling every minute of their lives. It could mean not always assuming that every time your spouse is angry, that it is directed towards you. It could be not returning a harsh word with another, showing some grace rather than throwing fuel on the fire. What is a healthy boundary you need to establish for yourself within your household?
For others, during this time, you may be confined to you home with nobody but yourself. This can be just as, if not more dangerous, than being confined with your family. During this time it is important to reach out to friends, family and brothers/sisters in recovery (with boundaries of course). Even though you may not be physically present with the other person, it is still just as easy to jump in and "live" their life rather than simply being "present and involved." Who can you reach out today, to step out of isolation?
If you would like someone to reach out to you, text us your E-mail and name to 970-645-6109 and we will have someone from within CR reach out to you.
Note: The thought of the days along with other key updates will also be posted on our facebook page (Celebrate Recovery at Crossroads Church Facebook Page) and for those without facebook, they will also be posted on the following blog site: https://crossroadscr.blogspot.com
UPDATES/REMINDERS:
- Don't forget to subscribe to our youtube channel. CR Youtube Channel Link . This is where we will be live streaming "CR Friday Night Live" Friday's at 6:30pm. We will not be streaming this Friday because the church is streaming their Good Friday Service at the same time. Check out Crossroad's website to tune into that!
- Friday night we will be hosting on-line open share group meetings at 7:30pm. There will be one mixed issues group for men and one mixed issues group for women. Sign Up Here: Men's Open Share Sign-up / Women's Open Share Group - Sign Up Link. These meetings will take place using the Zoom App. In order to participate you will need a tablet, smart-phone or computer with camera. In order to ensure confidentiality of these meetings everyone who participates will need to find a private room to set up, have their camera on, so others can see that there is no one else in the room and they will also need to wear a pair of headphones so that they are the only ones that can hear. This is a free app and you can download it on google play, apple app store or through your web-browser on your computer. For help on how to join a Zoom meeting please click on the the following link, which will take you to their support web-site Zoom Set-Up Help
James U.
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